Before I go any further with this I would like to point out these truths are relative.
If they do not apply to you, that doesn’t make them not truths, or wrong, it just means they are not relative to you.
These things are things I have come to learn in my life, and I do not care what anyone thinks about it and them.
What follows are lessons in my life that I have learned and would like to pass on to people. Pretty much all of them are unpleasant, even depressing, if you are not ready for such stuff, don’t read any further.
You were warned.
1. On family
Lots of people have mothers and fathers, and siblings, and most have at least pretty good relationships with them. But in reality, the fact you happen to have a relationship with them is not because you are family. A family member is someone whom you happen to share a percentage of your DNA with, NOTHING more. Any relationships, or anything else is built later and is a matter of choice. And like it or not part of the reasons you may either love or hate your family may be because they are similar to you in some ways, in the same way people may be friends or bitter enemies with random people for the same reasons.
2. You are not special or unique
Parents love to toss that around their kids it seems. That they are special and unique, and if one listens to such stuff that would make everyone in the world special and unique. Well if everyone were special and unique then NO ONE would be special and unique would they? The fact is, hardly anyone is special or unique, in fact most are just another cog in the machine, no different than any other when it comes down to it. And their life and being hold no real special impact in the world at all outside of their small sphere of influence. If you died tomorrow besides the people who might or might not mourn you; there would be no impact in the world, AT ALL. This makes you like an ant, outside the colony the death of any one ant is not felt, and even what little impact it is is so small that it is not felt long.
This does not mitigate the value of your life, it should merely put it into perspective for you. If you do not like it, make your self special, if you are lucky enough to be born with it try not to squander it.
3. You CAN’T be anything you want to be.
This is another that gets tossed around a lot by both parents and some lower grade teachers.
You are limited in what you can do from the time you drew your first breath, based on intelligence, strength, dexterity, family connections. (and a few others for that matter) Now while it is possible to beat such limitations, it is not likely. For instance if you are a 5 foot, skinny guy who bleeds easy and is not very durable, the odds of you become a champion boxer are VERY slim, also a basketball star for that matter. If you are not very smart, and do not come from a rich family and do not go to a top college, you are not very likely to be president. It is POSSIBLE, but not provable. Best some people learn that.
4. There is no reason for you to live
There is no reason for you to live beyond what you make for your self. NONE. If you can not find a reasons for your self to live and NEED one, go ahead and kill yourself. If you can not find a reason with in yourself no one will give you a very good one. And while I am on this, you do not even need a reason to live, you can live just fine for no reason at all. The fly and the ant do not question why they are here, and you do not need to either.
5. Killing one’s self is not the worst thing ever.
The fact of the matter is, if you are to stupid, weak, an asshole or whatever reason you have decided you might want to kill your self, it may be a GOOD thing. Life is a competition, and breeding is supposed to weed out the weak and unfit. Now a days this doesn’t happen, society is soft, the stupid and weak are coddled, their genes given an equal chance to flourish. Well certain combinations are not good, and are not needed, and if one is so failed that they feel the need to remove them selves from the earth, and will not seek help for it, well then by killing your self you do the world and the human race a favor.
6. Trust and love
Trust and love are both the greatest strength and weakness people have in them. They inspire some of the most courageous selfless acts, and those of the most horrible and vicious. And trust and love do not come without risk, in order to love you must make your self vulnerable to pain and heart break, and in order to trust you must make your self weak to being betrayed.
7. You are alone in the world
The fact of the matter is no matter what one day you will be by your self in something and there will be no one to help you. Even the person you love most in the world will some days let you down in something or other. It IS going to happen, know this and be ready for it.
8. You do not have to be good to do good things
You do not have to be good to do good things. You do not not have to care to show kindness. In fact sometimes you can help people better if you do not give a damn about them because you can approach stuff with a calm and rational head without any emotional biased in the situation. If you simply recognize that is something is good or right even if you do not care to do it or the person involved and you do it it is still the right thing to do, and weather or not you cared or by in large are a good person you have still done good.